Last night I finished Adulting: How to Become a Grown-Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps, by Kelly Williams Brown. I initially picked it up because the title made me laugh, and perhaps I could learn something valuable that I didn’t already know.
I will say that I’d recommend this book to anyone who’s just getting out of college. I wish I had it when I was in my early twenties, trying to navigate a whole new world of responsibilities like finding a decent roommate and, well, being a decent roommate. The author did a great job of touching on these subjects, as well as cleaning, cooking, getting a job, living frugally and so on. But my favorite stuff was about how to be an adult in relationships – from courting to breaking up. It even addresses setting boundaries with parents, if that’s a thing you gotta do.
In any case, as a 31-year-old, I don’t feel like I left this book empty handed. I learned a few new cleaning tricks and some extra numbers to program into my phone in case of emergency. (Why didn’t I think to program Poison Control into my phone, earlier?) It also taught me to use “adulting” as a verb, which makes it seem so much more accessible.
Also, I laughed my butt off. Her writing style is genuine and conversational (and includes the occasional F-bomb). Plus, fitting 468 steps into a 258 page book makes for quick, easy reading. It was definitely a good companion on the bus.
Friday’s don’t mean the same thing to me as they used to, I suppose. Since I quit the “day job” and have gone to full time, uh… hustling? It just hasn’t had the same feel. It helps that the person I work most closely with is in a similar boat. This means we can take Fabric Depot trips on Mondays, at lunch time, because we just woke up.
But for some reason, this Friday… It’s feel’s like a Friday! So lets celebrate!
Okay, so maybe it’s not just feminism. Maybe one of these things is about race or privilege, another is about domestic abuse, and the last is about rape culture. However, rather than get tied up trying to label all of this, I’m just going to post it under feminism. From my perspective, it seems like it still applies to all of the articles below.
First up is a series of GIFs taken from a speech Michael Kimmel did at Dartmouth College, entitled Boys Will Be Boys: Deconstructing Masculinity and Manhood. The whole speech (1:28:11) can be watched here. These highlights were captured off of Tumblr.
I just felt a pain I hadn’t felt since LiveJournal. I spent two hours… yes TWO HOURS carefully honing a post to perfection, and lost it in the preview phase. All that writing, lost to the ether. I’ll admit it, it makes me want to walk away from the computer, but it would kind of defeat the whole purpose of what I wrote. In short, it said,
Hi. I’m Bean. I don’t write here enough, and I figured out why: I’m shy. I’m shy, and sometimes I get depressed. And also, in that time between LiveJournal and now I somehow lost the self esteem that told me that the things I want to share with people are genuinely worth sharing.
If I didn’t re-write the post, I’d be defeating myself. (more…)